“I’m not going to make a Paris Hilton out of her. I’m not going to sell it, out of respect.” was his exact words.
What’s hit me the most is not that Monroe performed oral sex on some lucky guy, but the simple yet powerful truth behind those words. “Making” a Paris Hilton rather than “exposing” a Paris Hilton is what really happens in society. People are the ones who make Paris Hiltons. People who are burning inside and depressed over their own impotence (lack of getting any variety).
For once I’m actually glad that a sex tape wasn’t made public. And needless to say, that’s truly a first.
The concept in which our whole society is built around is completely flawed.
I don’t see how a woman in her entire life time, only be capable of falling in love with one single man. And of course how can a man only be satisfied with a single woman?
Through out history, the rich and powerful always had vivacious love lives. Kings always seemed to prefer more than one bride. Cleopatra, Queen Anula and many other women with power preferred to have several lovers at their disposal. Wealthy Arabs who could support more than one female could do as he wished. (Unfortunately the women back then were not as independent as today, so the opposite was not a reality.)
But in this day and age, where people have the power, where women are treated as equals (at least by law), and where progressive ideals such as democracy and individualism reign (at least in developed countries), why are we still trapped by the religious notion of marriage?
Most people blame it on the children. But I see it mostly as a sign of premature death. Usually, people are brain-dead by the age of 30. People rarely want to learn anything new. Their prejudices of life which were created when they were 18 still haunt their mere existence. And their ability to conjure new feelings and thoughts are drastically reduced.
The people who do break away from the concept of marriage, usual do it for the sex. Swingers and the so-called ‘key-societies’, still adhere to the concept of a couple. It’s either done for the sake of ‘keeping the marriage’ or to ‘liven things up between the two’. Therefore, these things hold no real long-term value for the individual (or couple for that matter) and usually end up in disaster.
There’s an old saying that ‘if truly love her, you have to let her go’. Why can’t we ‘let go’ every now and then?
With all the progressive thinkers in the world, why can’t people be healthy, independent self-loving individuals for once. It’s the only way that one can truly love someone else. Plus it’s a great way to mix up the gene pool, and accelerate evolution.
We could use a little sexyness in the parliament. With the exception of Anarkali, we haven’t really seen any pop divas around the rich and powerful. Everyone needs a reason to be righteous right?
Maybe the country could use a little bit of girl power…
Read this strange article on the history of mechanical vibrators. It says that vibrators were a byproduct to save the labour intensive work that male doctors had to go through when women were diagnosed with “Female hysteria”. This was back in the 17th century, where western society was much like the conservative Sri Lanka today.
Back then women were not supposed to feel the pleasure of orgasm. Sex was just a male thing, and women were just the tools of our lust. Just a place to spill the seed, so to speak. No wonder women were so degraded back then!
The article prolifically goes on to say that
“Women of that era were socialized to believe that “ladies” had no sex drive, and were merely passive receptacles for men’s unbridled lust, which they had to endure to hang on to their husbands and have children. Not surprisingly, these beliefs led to a great deal of sexual frustration on the part of women.”
I can only attribute this kind of thinking to a some sort of mass-domination fetish that people had in the old days. Women are complicated little creatures by themselves. Why in the world do we have to make life more complicated for them?
Judging from the various posts on kottu, it’s apparent that our “ladies” have really no say in this. Their basic issue usually is whether their virginity is worth saving or not!
And as amusing as it is, some of young girls fighting for women’s rights believe that their struggle is not for equality but for the “proper place” in society. And according to them their proper place in society is as caring mothers. Not independent women who aren’t afraid to feel for themselves.
And for all you guardians of morality, being independent and being raunchy are two different things. You’re just scared of women being independent will leave you with no one to cook and clean around the house.
As Sam would say, our fully-Victorian Christian society will probably never come to the stand that women also do have desires. And thus, women will forever be the tools of our lust. And the victims of our insecurity.
