Conversation with a Sri Lankan Homophobic Patriot
August 23, 2008
(Until recently I thought my friend (D) was a liberal. His homophobia only came into view when our discussion shifted from the Dark Knight to Heath Ledger. This is an excerpt of what followed after.)
Me: Man, I never realized that you hate gays/lesbians?
D: I don’t really hate them. Well, gays do put me off. But I love watching lesbians. Doesn’t everybody? (Laughs)
Me: So why don’t you like Heath?
D: Brokeback Mountain was a shame to humanity no. Homosexuality shouldn’t be given “approval” from society. Heath Ledger was one of the stupid actors who couldn’t see this, and his film gave society the wrong message. His acting is pretty good, I know. But his decision as a human being to promote homosexuality is idiotic.
Me: So you don’t want homosexuals to live openly?
D: Yeah. It’s unnatural behavior. And for the sake of our children it must be stopped. At least in public spaces. The behavior should be frowned upon and be considered as a sin. That’s what religion is for and every religion in this world says that homosexuality is bad.
Me: Buddhism doesn’t say it’s bad.
D: It’s violating the third shiksha padaya. And also the Buddha told us not to engage in lust. Homosexuality is a direct violation of that.
Me: But then heterosexuals like you and me, also give into lust no? Aren’t we doing the same thing?
D: Yes if you’re a sex addict then you’re just as bad. Sex is only okay when you want to have children. Even in Christianity they say go forth and multiply, not go forth and have sex.
Me: Don’t you have sex with your girl friend?
D: No. I can’t believe you even ask that question. We will do that in due time, when we get married.
Me: Ok. Hypothetically, let’s say you’re right. But homosexuality isn’t just about lust no?
D: It is. All they do is have sex. They’re complete sex maniacs. You don’t know the story putha. If you look closely at leading girls schools in Colombo, there are lesbians outside waiting to grab young school girls and force them to become lesbians.
Me: So you’re saying that one can turn into a lesbian?
D:Yes, of course. Are you even listening to what I’m saying? It’s worse in the gay community. Most of the sex tourists that come to Sri Lanka prey on little boys. Why? Because they can easily be turned into gays. If we legalize homosexuality, then this won’t stop. A lot of children will fall victim.
Me: Imagine if you’re a gay person. It would suck if the world doesn’t understand what you feel..
D:Well that’s too bad. Homosexuals are the minority. And their rights are conflicting with the majority’s rights. Society should always consider about the majority.
Me: So I guess you’re an Anti-Tamil person too?
D:No. I’m an Anti-LTTE person. I respect Tamils. But they should realize that Sinhaleese are the majority in this country. And they should know that we should have the power to rule.
Me: Man, we have to talk about this later. Of all the people, I never knew you could be this old school!
D:Old School? Dude, you should come down to the real world. There are a lot of bad things going on in this world that needs to be stopped.