The Decline of Male Libido and the Economics of Marriage
March 15, 2009
It’s true that the male libido has fallen inside marriage. One of my female friends conclude this to a consequence of declined masculinity in modern men because women are now the predominant breadwinners of the family.
I have another theory.One of course which is more sympathetic towards men.
The cost of having sex inside a marriage for a man has risen compared to having sex outside marriage. Therefore a man no longer marries to have sex. He marries to have children and build a family. This was not so in the past. Even though a man could have only one woman, the guarantee of intercourse would be an incentive for a man to get married. So men in the past married for sex, while men in the modern age marry for other reasons than sex – hence the loss of male libido within the marriage.
On the other hand female libido has increased. Thanks to the contraceptive pill, the biological, social and economic costs for having sex for a female has come down.
This has had two effects.
1.) More women are having sex outside marriage, and hence the cost of having sex for men has decreased. Which (as explained above) leads to loss of male libido within marriage.
2.) Married women expect more sex than before, which leads to further disappointment, and not getting what is expected.