Marriage: an outdated concept

February 27, 2008

The concept in which our whole society is built around is completely flawed.

I don’t see how a woman in her entire life time, only be capable of falling in love with one single man. And of course how can a man only be satisfied with a single woman?

Through out history, the rich and powerful always had vivacious love lives. Kings always seemed to prefer more than one bride. Cleopatra, Queen Anula and many other women with power preferred to have several lovers at their disposal. Wealthy Arabs who could support more than one female could do as he wished. (Unfortunately the women back then were not as independent as today, so the opposite was not a reality.)

But in this day and age, where people have the power, where women are treated as equals (at least by law), and where progressive ideals such as democracy and individualism reign (at least in developed countries), why are we still trapped by the religious notion of marriage?

Most people blame it on the children. But I see it mostly as a sign of premature death. Usually, people are brain-dead by the age of 30. People rarely want to learn anything new. Their prejudices of life which were created when they were 18 still haunt their mere existence. And their ability to conjure new feelings and thoughts are drastically reduced.

The people who do break away from the concept of marriage, usual do it for the sex. Swingers and the so-called ‘key-societies’, still adhere to the concept of a couple. It’s either done for the sake of ‘keeping the marriage’ or to ‘liven things up between the two’. Therefore, these things hold no real long-term value for the individual (or couple for that matter) and usually end up in disaster.

There’s an old saying that ‘if truly love her, you have to let her go’.  Why can’t we ‘let go’ every now and then?

With all the progressive thinkers in the world, why can’t people be healthy, independent self-loving individuals for once. It’s the only way that one can truly love someone else. Plus it’s a great way to mix up the gene pool, and accelerate evolution.


Without prior notice, Mahinda has stripped the Director General of the Bribery and Corruption Commission of his duties. Read more here.

With his brothers running the bulk of the corruption, this might yet be one of his more intelligent moves.

Lankenews stated that even though Dr. Mervyn Silva resigned from being an MP, he was not appointed to the Constitutional Council. Well Dr. Silva, don’t fret. You might have just the right qualifications the president is seeking for the now vacant DG post..


The hilarious radio conversation I overheard when driving this morning goes a little bit like this:

Woman: Even though we have gained independence from the British, we are still not free.

Radio guy: Can you give us an example?

Woman: Have you seen little girls doing gymnastics? They practice very hard and when the competition starts, the girls have to perform infront of all her friends and family. And they do this wearing very little clothing. What does this do to our culture? We have a great Sinhala Buddhist culture, and we throwing it away for gymnasitics.

(At this point I was cracking up.  And barely had control over the wheel.)

Radio guy: So you’re saying that girls should not be allowed the freedom of doing gymnasitics?

Woman: No.. uh yes. They should. But they should also know that wearing a skimpy outfit for a Sinhala-Buddhist lady is throwing away all that she has. Errr…. the woman is a wonderful creature I think. But all the wonder and beauty goes away when a woman lets go of her shame and fear.

Radio guy: But you can’t do gymnastics wearing a redda and hetta? [translation: traditional dress]

Woman: Yes. You can’t. But look at all the woman who have succeeded in their lives today. Have they done gymnastics? Have they worn skimpy outfits that bring shame on themselves? No. They have a good sense of shame and fear and they are all faithful to their husbands.

I actually wrote something on women’s freedom a little time back, and Sam gave an awesome comment which explained a lot. But I still had to write this down, I had so much fun listening to this.

Damn, radio in Sri Lanka is really entertaining!